Thursday, 7 February 2013

In Transition: Getting Used to my Tightly Fitted Jacket

Well, my dream has  manifested. So many times over. Regardless of the envy and begrudging attitudes of some folk ( from some sectors of my family), I am here, in the land of plenty, beautiful scenery, fresh fruit literally at my fingertips, a steady stream of sunshine, and most importantly, with my darling husband. I will always be blessed, regardless of the obstacles that some folk want to continuously  place on our positive paths!

They call Dominica the 'Nature Island', and truly, the scenic views of the landscape are amazingly awesome and breathtaking - I will touch on this in another blog post. Where we live we have the wonderful image of the Caribbean Sea just within our eyesights. Can you imagine, as I open the wooden blinds of our bedroom, gently rub my weary eyes,  stretch and rise in the early, quiet, warm morning of my newly adopted country, I can see the dazzling deep blue shimmer of the Caribbean Sea. Can you imagine the blessings that I ultimately feel living in this small island of paradise?


I've been in Dominica for the past month, and I was saying to my husband the other day, that  sometimes I feel that I am wearing a  tightly fitted jacket; trying to get used to its size to make sure it fits me perfectly and I am comfortable wearing it. I see this analogy as how I am adapting to this beautiful country. Sometimes there is discomfort, sometimes there's a tightness, and sometimes there's a restricted comfortableness! This is because I am still adapting to my surreal (in a sense) surroundings. I have to get used to the chilled attitudes of folk here. Eliminate my notions of efficiency, and definitely get rid of my British stiff upper lip. I mean, I was born in the UK, and as much as I have never consciously embraced my 'britishness', its still imbued deeply within me. I can't escape it. But I can eliminate the attitude and embrace my buried deep new one, my 'Caribbeaness' as such - even if my people are not from here originally.

So, over the next few months I know that my tightly fitted jacket will become much looser and will fit me so much better. Thus making  my comfort in living here relaxed, as I get used to my new surroundings. In the interim, I will be drinking in all of Dominica, like a baby being breastfed for the first time.  Still writing and being creative. Still working on my novel. Still daydreaming. Still loving. Still being positive and optimistic. Still blogging on my new experiences of living in Waitukubuli - pronounced Wa-it-tuku-buli (tall is her body) the original Kalingo name for Dominica.

As I mentioned in a previous blog, once I have settled over here I will be migrating my blog onto my own domain. I am still trying to come up with an inventive and memorable name. Any suggestions?

Watch out for my carnival tinged post soon. Carnival season is alive over here and I am excited to be a part of it as an appreciated spectator.


  1. Thats really wonderful Tai..

    I think that your experience is an eye opener to us all especially myself as I am still craving to get out of this country, anywhere but here... how do you feel being a Nigerian in the carib... the reason why I ask is.. I think its important for you to share your experience for the brothers and sisters, because a few of my Carib friends have moved to Africa, and as a carib I am hoping to do the same thing...

    being in the UK there is still this divide between black people, but I think your particular point of view is really important in bridging the gap for our brothers and sister..

    I think it would be nice if you share why as a UK Nigerian woman you were happy to move to the Carib I think your perspective can help our brothers and sisters because I feel that your move is a reflection and understanding that unity isn't just about similarities, its about difference, adaptation and embracing change amongst our own people first and foremost, just as readily as we are to embrace it for those who are not of out shared ancestry...


  2. Hey sis!
    Thanks for the positive contribution!
    Its funny you write this, because since living here in Dominica, I always, ALWAYS get mistaken as if I am from here. Folk rarely believe that I don't come from here and they are asking if I am sure I'm not from here. So really, the source of likeness is the same, just a different accent and some varying cultural differences.
    I understand when you write about the division between Africans and the Caribbeans in the UK. I think more with our generation then with the present generation.
    A lot of my blogs from now on will be writing about my perception on living here, and I am duly excited about the coming prospects of sharing it:)

  3. You always have this unique way of writing. I loved reading what you had to say regarding your emigration to Dominica, and I look forward to reading further posts on your transition!

    A sister from the States.

  4. Brothers In-arms
    What a great blog I was taken back reading about my country Dominica ...I'm going too share this blog with my fellow peoples...
    I have learnt some things from your blog especially ...
    Waitukubuli. The original KALINGO. name for DOMINICA...

  5. Moody Simon
    Great blog excellent!!

  6. Hows the tight fitting jacket going, is it starting to loosen up, I wanted to find out a bit more about Dominica, i dont know what your time schedule is like out there as Im not sure how much commitments you have but I would like to have a look at some of the demographics out there and the lifestyle of the people, standards of living, local markets and see maybe if there is some work we can do together even if its raising awareness about Dominica.